Connect with us

LifeStyle

Tips from a therapist to maintain a new sobriety

Published

on

Tips from a therapist to maintain a new sobriety

Therapist Carder Stout, PhD, works with clients to overcome addiction, anxiety, depression, and trauma. He himself has been sober for fifteen years; You can read about his journey to sobriety in an excerpt from his first book here. Below, answer one of the most common questions we’ve received about addiction and sobriety in the past year. (Have a question for a therapist? Send us a message at [email protected].)

Q

During the course of the pandemic, I developed some new problems with substance abuse that I did not have before. It started as a way of dealing with it. But it went too far. I am working to stay sober and I am doing well. How do I make sure it lasts? —Isabel M.

A.

First, let me congratulate you on getting it right with your sobriety. This is a great achievement. I hope you feel good about it.

The pandemic has been a perfect storm for addictive behavior. Substance abuse often arises as a way to escape boredom, repetition, claustrophobia, isolation, fear, or overwhelm. But substance abuse is not a healthy remedy for these problems.

At its root, substance abuse thrives when there are harmful and limiting beliefs about ourselves and our circumstances. The voices in our heads tell us that we are not good enough or that we cannot succeed. Let’s replace those messages with a new narrative. Each time you set a small goal and stick to it, your more accurate perception of yourself will help you stay sober. So agree with yourself that you will not drink or take substances during the day, and when you achieve this milestone, enjoy success. Yes, you can be successful and yes, you are good enough.

If you stumble, forgive yourself and move on. You are not perfect and being sober is difficult. Relapse is part of the process, so don’t be too hard on yourself. Shame and guilt are often fuel for drinking, taking pills, and smoking; forgiveness will be an integral part of staying sober.

Here are some tips to help you stay sober. Creating a daily routine that incorporates nutrition, exercise, and connecting with others will be an integral part of your success.

  1. 1.
    Eliminate the temptation. Get all alcohol, narcotics and marijuana, or any substance that you may have problems with, out of your home for now. Give them to a friend or just throw them away. Removing them from your environment will help eliminate the immediate threat of relapse.

  2. two.
    Set small goals. When you wake up in the morning, set a goal for the day: “I’ll be sober.” If you can, amazing. If not, forgive yourself. Say something like “For all the things I did yesterday that I’m not proud of, I forgive myself.”

  3. 3.
    Be responsible. Let your friends and family know that you are trying to stay sober and be honest with them about your progress. Don’t feel shy, embarrassed, or guilty if you relapse. Connect with someone every day on a personal level. Substance abuse loves deception and isolation, so be sure to reach out and be honest.

  4. Bedroom
    Nourish yourself. Make sure you eat healthy and nutritious food. When you are sober, consider what you put on your body as a reflection of how you feel about yourself. Eating well is a way of practicing self-love.

  5. 5.
    Get out into the fresh air. Put your feet on the ground. Literally – Sit on a patch of grass in your backyard, in a park, or on the beach with the soles of your feet on the ground. Imagine that all your limiting beliefs are released on earth.

  6. Sixth
    Be optimistic and positive. Your sobriety is the search for a deeper, happier and more authentic part of yourself. This is a noble quest. Remember your reasons. Be clear with them. You deserve this.

Carder Stout, PhD, is a Los Angeles therapist in private practice in Brentwood, treating clients for anxiety, depression, addiction, and trauma. As a relationship specialist, he is adept at helping clients be more honest with themselves and their partners. He received his Ph.D. in psychology from the Pacifica Graduate Institute in August 2015.

This article is for informational purposes only, even if and regardless of whether it includes the advice of physicians and medical professionals. This article is not a substitute for, nor is it intended to be, a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment and should never be relied upon for specific medical advice. The opinions expressed in this article are the opinions of the expert and do not necessarily represent the opinions of NEWS BLOCK.

Continue Reading
Advertisement
Click to comment

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Advertisement
Advertisement

Lifestyle

M’sian brand for comfortable women’s clothing and baju kurung M’sian brand for comfortable women’s clothing and baju kurung
LifeStyle4 hours ago

M’sian brand for comfortable women’s clothing and baju kurung

Come Raya, Whimsigirl It is a household name that Malaysians would buy for holiday haircuts or, on any other day,...

New carbon offset feature and EV option for travel service New carbon offset feature and EV option for travel service
LifeStyle4 hours ago

New carbon offset feature and EV option for travel service

Superapp Grab is launching a carbon offset feature for ride-sharing services in a bid to reduce their environmental footprint. Users...

Men’s rubber sole sandals made in Malaysia for Asian feet Men’s rubber sole sandals made in Malaysia for Asian feet
LifeStyle7 hours ago

Men’s rubber sole sandals made in Malaysia for Asian feet

As avid sandal wearers, Richard Tsen and Alfies Lu actually struggled to find open shoes that fit well. Most of...

8 wellness gadgets to recharge your mind, body, and sex life 8 wellness gadgets to recharge your mind, body, and sex life
LifeStyle10 hours ago

8 wellness gadgets to recharge your mind, body, and sex life

What’s great about the emerging world of wellness tech is that it’s full of gadgets, apps, and tools that put...

Olive Oil Fraud Is Real – An Expert Explains How To Spot Fake Olive Oil Olive Oil Fraud Is Real – An Expert Explains How To Spot Fake Olive Oil
LifeStyle15 hours ago

Olive Oil Fraud Is Real – An Expert Explains How To Spot Fake Olive Oil

Almost every recipe I make, from cakes to pizza, requires at least a small amount of extra virgin olive oil....

What to wear for a barbecue or outdoor gathering this summer What to wear for a barbecue or outdoor gathering this summer
LifeStyle24 hours ago

What to wear for a barbecue or outdoor gathering this summer

I don’t know about you, but here at Camille Styles, we are still in the home dress mode. It is...

Why Singtel is betting big on gaming, streaming and financial services startups Why Singtel is betting big on gaming, streaming and financial services startups
LifeStyle1 day ago

Why Singtel is betting big on gaming, streaming and financial services startups

Singtel, Singapore’s largest telecommunications company said in may This year it is “open to taking significant minority stakes” in startups...

S’pore in final talks with M’sia to accept her digital vaccination passport S’pore in final talks with M’sia to accept her digital vaccination passport
LifeStyle1 day ago

S’pore in final talks with M’sia to accept her digital vaccination passport

According to The star, Singapore may become the first foreign country to recognize MySejahtera as Malaysia’s “vaccination passport”. MySejahtera is...

Bye Bye Virus Card Game Won S $ 22,000 In 5 Weeks Bye Bye Virus Card Game Won S $ 22,000 In 5 Weeks
LifeStyle1 day ago

Bye Bye Virus Card Game Won S $ 22,000 In 5 Weeks

Denise Lim and Yasmine Khater, both 36, met for the first time through a rock climbing session together: Denise was...

M’sian Startup for Plant-Based Meat Substitutes Made from Jackfruit M’sian Startup for Plant-Based Meat Substitutes Made from Jackfruit
LifeStyle1 day ago

M’sian Startup for Plant-Based Meat Substitutes Made from Jackfruit

There has been an increase in meat alternatives in recent years as people began looking for healthier food options or...

Advertisement

Sport

Wembley Stadium can have 65,000 fans for the semi-finals and final of Euro 2020 Wembley Stadium can have 65,000 fans for the semi-finals and final of Euro 2020
Sports12 mins ago

Wembley Stadium can have 65,000 fans for the semi-finals and final of Euro 2020

LONDON – UEFA is in talks with the British government to increase attendance at Wembley Stadium to 65,000 for the...

What each team needs to reach knockouts What each team needs to reach knockouts
Sports19 mins ago

What each team needs to reach knockouts

Euro 2020 has been full of excitement and it has been worth all the money that spectators are spending to...

NCAA: San Beda rules juniors taekwondo kickoff event NCAA: San Beda rules juniors taekwondo kickoff event
Sports36 mins ago

NCAA: San Beda rules juniors taekwondo kickoff event

MANILA, Philippines – San Beda collected three gold medals in the taekwondo kicking competition in the NCAA season 96 youth...

Previous Cup 2021: Bolivia vs Uruguay Previous Cup 2021: Bolivia vs Uruguay
Sports44 mins ago

Previous Cup 2021: Bolivia vs Uruguay

Bolivia and Uruguay meet on the fourth day of their third match of the Copa América group stage. The two...

Mets ace Jacob deGrom cleared to start Monday against the Braves Mets ace Jacob deGrom cleared to start Monday against the Braves
Sports59 mins ago

Mets ace Jacob deGrom cleared to start Monday against the Braves

NEW YORK – Mets ace Jacob deGrom was cleared to start the opener of New York’s double header on Monday...

Which forward can sign with City if Levy plays tough? Which forward can sign with City if Levy plays tough?
Sports1 hour ago

Which forward can sign with City if Levy plays tough?

The Champions of England are ready to regain their throne once again. Pep Guardiola’s additions to a sold-out Manchester City...

Pagunsan obtains the place of the Olympic Games of Tokyo;  Saso, Pagdanganan hopes to qualify Pagunsan obtains the place of the Olympic Games of Tokyo;  Saso, Pagdanganan hopes to qualify
Sports1 hour ago

Pagunsan obtains the place of the Olympic Games of Tokyo; Saso, Pagdanganan hopes to qualify

FILE – Filipino golfer Juvic Pagunsan watches during a practice round at the Royal Liverpool golf course in Hoylake, north-west...

The inspiring tale of Afghanistan, born in Denmark International The inspiring tale of Afghanistan, born in Denmark International
Sports1 hour ago

The inspiring tale of Afghanistan, born in Denmark International

It is often said that true talents arise out of adversity. For some, it can be a difficult childhood that...

Every Child Matters: Indigenous Peoples, Hockey and Community Every Child Matters: Indigenous Peoples, Hockey and Community
Sports2 hours ago

Every Child Matters: Indigenous Peoples, Hockey and Community

var adServerUrl = “”; var $ el = $ (“# video_container-770938”); var permalink = $ el.closest (‘. snet-single-article’). data (‘permalink’);...

Which forward can sign with City if Levy plays tough? Which forward can sign with City if Levy plays tough?
Sports2 hours ago

Euro 2020 report: Finland 0-2 Belgium

Finland faced Belgium, needing to match or better Russia’s result to finish second in the group. For the Red Devils,...

Advertisement

Entertainment

Jackie O Henderson to embark on a healthy lifestyle with WW Jackie O Henderson to embark on a healthy lifestyle with WW
Entertainment12 seconds ago

Jackie O Henderson to embark on a healthy lifestyle with WW

Jackie O Henderson has been open about his struggle with unhealthy habits since the coronavirus pandemic. The KIIS radio presenter...

Alex Rodriguez at a party with Ben Affleck’s ex-girlfriend Lindsay Shukus Alex Rodriguez at a party with Ben Affleck’s ex-girlfriend Lindsay Shukus
Entertainment11 mins ago

Alex Rodriguez at a party with Ben Affleck’s ex-girlfriend Lindsay Shukus

The plot thickens. Jennifer Lopezex-fiancé Alex Rodriguez was spotted at a party in Lindsay Shukusbirthday on Saturday 19 June. Lindsay...

Playground, Red Arrow Develops Drama Series ‘Inspector Maigret’ – News Block Playground, Red Arrow Develops Drama Series ‘Inspector Maigret’ – News Block
Entertainment14 mins ago

Playground, Red Arrow Develops Drama Series ‘Inspector Maigret’ – News Block

Colin Callender’s Playground and Red Arrow Studios International join forces to jointly develop a premium English drama series based on...

Tucker Carlson’s Clout Machine is spinning into overdrive Tucker Carlson’s Clout Machine is spinning into overdrive
Entertainment23 mins ago

Tucker Carlson’s Clout Machine is spinning into overdrive

Cable News’ The best reviews The host apparently does not plan to bring his conspiracy theories to the election campaign....

Alex Rodriguez rents a mansion 1.6 km from Jennifer Lopez Alex Rodriguez rents a mansion 1.6 km from Jennifer Lopez
Entertainment35 mins ago

Alex Rodriguez rents a mansion 1.6 km from Jennifer Lopez

June 22, 2021 Alex Rodriguez rented a new house 1.6 km from former Jennifer Lopez. Alex Rodriguez The 45-year-old former...

Paul Rudd makes one last epic Mac & Me joke about Conan O’Brien Paul Rudd makes one last epic Mac & Me joke about Conan O’Brien
Entertainment38 mins ago

Paul Rudd makes one last epic Mac & Me joke about Conan O’Brien

Rudd enlisted an unsuspecting Bill Hader to help him set up the latest in an absurd experiment spanning nearly two...

Khloe Kardashian reacts to suspicious post about Tristan after split Khloe Kardashian reacts to suspicious post about Tristan after split
Entertainment47 mins ago

Khloe Kardashian reacts to suspicious post about Tristan after split

Rising above. Following their separation from Tristan thompson, Khloe kardashian made it clear that he wasn’t going to get involved...

Report: Meghan Markle and Kate Middleton to duel at the unveiling of the Princess Diana statue Report: Meghan Markle and Kate Middleton to duel at the unveiling of the Princess Diana statue
Entertainment58 mins ago

Report: Meghan Markle and Kate Middleton to duel at the unveiling of the Princess Diana statue

Is an Princess Diana responsible for the royal showdown of the century? The cover story shows that Meghan Markle as...

KUWTK: Kim Kardashian and La La Anthony leaning on each other in the middle of their divorces, here’s how! KUWTK: Kim Kardashian and La La Anthony leaning on each other in the middle of their divorces, here’s how!
Entertainment1 hour ago

KUWTK: Kim Kardashian and La La Anthony leaning on each other in the middle of their divorces, here’s how!

La La Anthony She is preparing to divorce Carmelo Anthony, but luckily she can at least go through all of...

Billie Eilish ‘shocked and embarrassed’ by resurfaced video containing anti-Asian comment: ‘I want to vomit’ Billie Eilish ‘shocked and embarrassed’ by resurfaced video containing anti-Asian comment: ‘I want to vomit’
Entertainment1 hour ago

Billie Eilish ‘shocked and embarrassed’ by resurfaced video containing anti-Asian comment: ‘I want to vomit’

Billie eilish has responded to a resurfaced video that appears to show her uttering an anti-Asian comment, apologizing for behavior...

Advertisement

Tech

The 2021 Lamborghini Urus stands out even on a gloomy day The 2021 Lamborghini Urus stands out even on a gloomy day
Tech17 mins ago

The 2021 Lamborghini Urus stands out even on a gloomy day

1 of 41 Daniel Golson / Roadshow Even on a gloomy and rainy day, the 2021 Lamborghini Urus stands out....

Charge your iPhone wirelessly and save 50% on this Anker PowerWave Pad Charge your iPhone wirelessly and save 50% on this Anker PowerWave Pad
Tech22 mins ago

Charge your iPhone wirelessly and save 50% on this Anker PowerWave Pad

This excellent wireless charger will power your iPhone or AirPods without the need for cumbersome cables. Charging speeds vary depending...

Prime Day Laptop Deals: Savings on MacBook Pro, Acer, Gateway Notebook Prime Day Laptop Deals: Savings on MacBook Pro, Acer, Gateway Notebook
Tech42 mins ago

Prime Day Laptop Deals: Savings on MacBook Pro, Acer, Gateway Notebook

This story is part of Amazon Prime Day 2021, CNET’s guide to everything you need to know and how to...

Where and when to watch it online: Tech News, Firstpost Where and when to watch it online: Tech News, Firstpost
Tech46 mins ago

Where and when to watch it online: Tech News, Firstpost

FP trendJune 22, 2021 2:43:04 PM M. IST The night sky will witness the strawberry moon on Thursday, June 24....

Amazon Prime Day Chromebook Deals: $ 120 off Samsung Chromebook Plus V2, $ 50 off Lenovo Chromebook Duet Amazon Prime Day Chromebook Deals: $ 120 off Samsung Chromebook Plus V2, $ 50 off Lenovo Chromebook Duet
Tech1 hour ago

Amazon Prime Day Chromebook Deals: $ 120 off Samsung Chromebook Plus V2, $ 50 off Lenovo Chromebook Duet

This story is part of Amazon Prime Day 2021, CNET’s guide to everything you need to know and how to...

Peloton’s $ 3,000 treadmill now comes with a surprise ‘subscription fee’ Peloton’s $ 3,000 treadmill now comes with a surprise ‘subscription fee’
Tech1 hour ago

Peloton’s $ 3,000 treadmill now comes with a surprise ‘subscription fee’

Peloton has introduced a monthly subscription fee of $ 39.99 for its high-end treadmill product line called Tread +. This...

Best Prime Day Game Deals: Save on Returnal, Amazon Luna, Resident Evil Village and More Best Prime Day Game Deals: Save on Returnal, Amazon Luna, Resident Evil Village and More
Tech1 hour ago

Best Prime Day Game Deals: Save on Returnal, Amazon Luna, Resident Evil Village and More

This story is part of Amazon Prime Day 2021, CNET’s guide to everything you need to know and how to...

This little Prime Day charger can power each of your Apple devices This little Prime Day charger can power each of your Apple devices
Tech2 hours ago

This little Prime Day charger can power each of your Apple devices

Amazon Prime Day is always a great opportunity to purchase new chargers and cables for your various Apple devices, but...

Bullguard Antivirus for Mac review: protection that feels like an afterthought Bullguard Antivirus for Mac review: protection that feels like an afterthought
Tech2 hours ago

Bullguard Antivirus for Mac review: protection that feels like an afterthought

Take a look Expert rating Pros Able to identify common Mac malware Cons Mac deployment feels like an afterthought Useless...

Best Roku Prime Day Deals: Save $ 31 on Roku Ultra and More Best Roku Prime Day Deals: Save $ 31 on Roku Ultra and More
Tech2 hours ago

Best Roku Prime Day Deals: Save $ 31 on Roku Ultra and More

This story is part of Amazon Prime Day 2021, CNET’s guide to everything you need to know and how to...

Advertisement
Advertisement